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In the same way, you wives, be subject to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, as they observe your pure conduct with fear. Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on garments; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible quality of a lowly and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being subject to their own husbands, just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord. You have become her children if you do good, not fearing any intimidation. You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. Now to sum up, all of you be like-minded, sympathetic, brotherly, tender-hearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but giving a blessing instead, for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.”

1 Peter 3:1-9 LSB

https://bible.com/bible/3345/1pe.3.1-9.LSB

  • Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives,

  • Ὁμοίως γυναῖκες ὑποτασσόμεναι τοῖς ἰδίοις ἀνδράσιν, ἵνα καὶ εἴ τινες ἀπειθοῦσιν τῷ λόγῳ διὰ τῆς τῶν γυναικῶν ἀναστροφῆς ἄνευ λόγου κερδηθήσονται

    • Be Subject

      • ὑποτασσόμεναι hypotassomenai subject; subordinate

      • CDWGTHB subordinate; obey; be under obedience (obedient); put under; subdue unto, (be, make) subject (to, unto), be (put) in subjection (to, under), submit s

    • Do not obey

      • ἀπειθοῦσιν apeithousin disobey; be disobedient

      • CDWGTHB disbelieve; not believe; disobedient; obey not; unbelieving

    • Word (a function of Christ Jesus)

      • λόγῳ logō word; message

      • CDWGTHB said; thought; topic; reasoning; motive; computation; Expression; Christ; account; cause; communication; concerning; doctrine; fame; have to do

    • Conduct

      • ἀναστροφῆς anastrophēs conduct; way of life

      • CDWGTHB behavior; conversation

  • when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

  • ἐποπτεύσαντες τὴν ἐν φόβῳ ἁγνὴν ἀναστροφὴν ὑμῶν.

    • Respectful

      • φόβῳ phobō fear

      • CDWGTHB be; fear; alarm; fright; be afraid; exceedingly; terror

    • Pure

      • ἁγνὴν hagnēn pure; innocent

      • CDWGTHB clean; innocent; modest; perfect; chaste; pure

    • Conduct

      • ἀναστροφὴν anastrophēn conduct; way of life

      • CDWGTHB behavior; conversation

  • Do not let your adorning be external— the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear

  • ὧν ἔστω οὐχ ὁ ἔξωθεν ἐμπλοκῆς τριχῶν καὶ περιθέσεως χρυσίων ἢ ἐνδύσεως ἱματίων κόσμος,

    • Adorning

      • κόσμος Kosmos world; order; ornament

      • CDWGTHB arrangement; decoration; world; adorning

      • NOTE: *cosmos refers to everything that exists. Orderly or harmonious universe.

      • All that you are; everything about you.

      • “Do not be a friend of the world”

        • “Do not love the world nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever.”
          ‭‭1 John‬ ‭2‬:‭15‬-‭17‬ ‭NASB1995‬‬
          https://bible.com/bible/100/1jn.2.15-17.NASB1995

        • “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”
          ‭‭Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭2‬ ‭NASB1995‬‬
          https://bible.com/bible/100/rom.12.2.NASB1995

  • but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

  • ἀλλʼ ὁ κρυπτὸς τῆς καρδίας ἄνθρωπος ἐν τῷ ἀφθάρτῳ τοῦ πραέως καὶ ἡσυχίου⸃ πνεύματος, ὅ ἐστιν ἐνώπιον τοῦ θεοῦ πολυτελές.

    • Hidden

      • κρυπτὸς kryptos secret; hidden

      • CDWGTHB concealed; private; hid (-den); inward [-ly]; secret

    • Heart

      • καρδίας kardias heart

      • CDWGTHB cor; heart; thoughts; feelings; mind; middle; (+ broken-) heart (-ed)

      • NOTE: similar to Kosmos. All that you are - your feelings, emotions, dreams, aspirations, desires…your Kosmos(ordered universe)

    • Gentle

      • πραέως praeōs gentle; meek; humble

      • CDWGTHB mild; humble; meek. See also; 4235

    • Quiet

      • ἡσυχίου hēsychiou quiet; well-ordered

      • CDWGTHB keeping; seat; sedentary; still; undisturbed; undisturbing; peaceable; quiet

    • Of a spirit

      • πνεύματος pneumatos spirit; Spirit

      • CDWGTHB current; breath (blast); breeze; spirit; soul; vital principle; disposition; angel; dæmon; God; Spirit; ghost; life; spirit (-ual, -ually; min

      • NOTE: this is not in reference to your mannerisms meaning literally being quiet like a mouse but rather the inner being or vital principle. The nature of the order of your Kosmos. How you approach and handle situations I.e. loud, arrogant, boastful, OR tactful, compassionate, calm, level-headed. This is taking into account that women reason with their emotions while men reason with their logic. Meaning emotions are not an excuse to be out of control and chaotic in a given situation nor lack the ability to control oneself and discipline the Kosmos.

    • Very Precious

      • πολυτελές polyteles expensive; costly

      • CDWGTHB extremely expensive; costly; very precious; of great price

      • NOTE: G-D holds this type of behavior as extremely valuable and preferential

  • For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands,

  • οὕτως γάρ ποτε καὶ αἱ ἅγιαι γυναῖκες αἱ ἐλπίζουσαι εἰς θεὸν ἐκόσμουν ἑαυτάς, ὑποτασσόμεναι τοῖς ἰδίοις ἀνδράσιν,

    • Submitting

      • ὑποτασσόμεναι hypotassomenai subject; subordinate

      • CDWGTHB subordinate; obey; be under obedience (obedient); put under; subdue unto, (be, make) subject (to, unto), be (put) in subjection (to, under), submit

  • as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.

  • ὡς Σάρρα ὑπήκουσεν τῷ Ἀβραάμ, κύριον αὐτὸν καλοῦσα· ἧς ἐγενήθητε τέκνα ἀγαθοποιοῦσαι καὶ μὴ φοβούμεναι μηδεμίαν πτόησιν.

  • Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

  • Οἱ ἄνδρες ὁμοίως συνοικοῦντες κατὰ γνῶσιν, ὡς ἀσθενεστέρῳ σκεύει τῷ γυναικείῳ ἀπονέμοντες τιμήν, ὡς καὶ συγκληρονόμοις χάριτος ζωῆς, εἰς τὸ μὴ ἐγκόπτεσθαι τὰςπροσευχὰς ὑμῶν.

    • Live with

      • συνοικοῦντες synoikountes live with

      • CDWGTHB reside together; dwell together

    • In an understanding way

      • γνῶσιν gnōsin knowledge

      • CDWGTHB knowing; knowledge; science

      • NOTE: This requires you learn and understand female nature and act in such a way to honor it in the eyes of G-D. Men reason (think, understand, and form judgements by a process) with logic to determine or gain knowledge. The adage, that men cannot understand women is false. You must simply understand that they reason utilizing a different method to come to their conclusions. This is evidenced in the genesis account explained earlier (fire/emotion) as well as apart of the curse (Your desire will be towards your husband but he will rule over you). Knowing this, you must realize that their emotions are not a hindrance but simply a different system of reasoning. Where they lack structure, they have multiplicative potential. The husbands job is to implant and feed positive and forward-thinking seeds, constructively funneling their fiery emotional potential. If left unattended, a wild-fire erupts and consumes all (to her dismay) or a tsunami/hurricane consumes all and washes everything away. If the garden is left untended and untilled, weeds become rampant and choke the plant robbing it of nourishment and the fruit you seek to succor. Instead you are left with rotting fruit and poisoned defensive barbs. You are the husbandman, engage in husbandry. Referencing the genesis account, you must be a husband engaging in husbandry BEFORE a help-mate is brought to you. Else-wise what is she going to help you with? What purpose or name will you have for her? To act in such a way is unbiblical.

    • Weaker

      • ἀσθενεστέρῳ asthenesterō weak; sick

      • CDWGTHB strengthless; more feeble; impotent; sick; without strength; weak (er, -ness; thing)

      • NOTE: Wives were never meant to do your job. Their nature is not to bring order or to tend a garden but to assist by multiplying what is provided (Ref Proverbs). They are a support structure, a womb, a multiplicative power. When you multiply by 0; you always get 0. If you multiply by any positive number (Z+) you get a multiplicative result (bear much fruit). The level “fruit” born depends on what you put in. This of course hinges on you WAITING on G-D to bring your mate in the first place. It works both ways…you can also multiply poisen. This is true for man and woman, husband and wife.

    • Showing

      • ἀπονέμοντες aponemontes assign; show; pay; accord

      • CDWGTHB apportion; bestow; give

    • Honor

      • τιμήν timēn honor; value; price

      • CDWGTHB value; money; valuables; esteem; dignity; honour; precious; price; some

    • Heirs with you

      • συγκληρονόμοις synklēronomois fellow heir

      • CDWGTHB co-heir; participant in common; fellow (joint) -heir; heir together; heir with

      • NOTE: This is the key of equality and equitability. We are equal in our G-D given grace of life but equitable in our affairs. We are not meant to be equal in what we do but equitable. We do not do the same things, are not able to do the same things and were made different so that we come to understand what it is to be equitable to each other. The 2nd commandment ‘do unto others’ speaks to equitability not equality. What you would do to them may not be what they would do to you, but you must do so nonetheless. Righteous = Equitable. Equality was the temptation provided in the garden Gen 3:5. The lie was that in having your eyes opened you will be like or equal to G-D. In truth, you will then know just how far from G-D you are; the disparity becomes glaringly obvious. This is the good and evil. G-D’s mercy was sheltering us from that Truth; the good. We are not and cannot be Him. To see the disparity is welcome despair and hopelessness; the evil. This was what we did to ourselves. That is the deception and the allure of equality; it is idolatry, greed/covetousness and discontent. It is the Sin of Lucifer, the father of lies.

    • נִפְקְח֖וּ nip̄·qeḥûʹ open; unstopped; (will be opened)

    • CDWGTHB open; be observant

  • Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.

  • Τὸ δὲ τέλος πάντες ὁμόφρονες, συμπαθεῖς, φιλάδελφοι, εὔσπλαγχνοι, ταπεινόφρονες,

    • Unity of mind

      • ὁμόφρονες homophrones harmonious; united in spirit

      • CDWGTHB like-minded; harmonious; of one mind

    • Sympathy

      • συμπαθεῖς sympatheis sympathetic; understanding

      • CDWGTHB sympathetic; mutually commiserative; having compassion one of another

    • Brotherly love

      • φιλάδελφοι philadelphoi having brotherly love

      • CDWGTHB fond of brethren; fraternal; love as brethren

    • Tender heart

      • εὔσπλαγχνοι eusplanchnoi compassionate

      • CDWGTHB well compassioned; sympathetic; pitiful; tender-hearted

    • Humble mind

      • ταπεινόφρονες tapeinophrones humble

      • NOTE: having or showing a modest estimate of one’s value or importance; not arrogant or self-important. The ideas of self-worth, self-love is unbiblical.

“Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled [ἐταπείνωσεν etapeinōsen humble; make humble; CDWGTHB depress; humiliate; abase; bring low; humble (self)]Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.”

Philippians 2:5-8 NASB199